You’d probably assume that flirting through text would be so much easier than in person—but, you’d be wrong. Sure, you have the time to proofread what you say and make sure it comes off as being sincere. But with texts, you don’t have the instant gratification of knowing how the other person is responding and that can make things pretty tricky.
For example, if you came off too strong or were awkward in your delivery in person, your date’s body language would tell you everything you need to know about how your message was received. On texting, you may keep going with a stream of text messages, never knowing that the person you’re talking to is totally turned off.
That’s why it’s important to brush up on your texting etiquette. Since it’s 2019, the majority of our communication is done through our phones. You’ll want to make sure your flirty texts are coming across the right way, to make sure you don’t accidentally screw up a great potential connection.
Here are three flirty text mistakes you’ll want to avoid.
Seriously. If you’re in high school, that’s another story. But if you’re an actual adult who’s looking for someone long term, it’s a sad story to tell your future kids that you won them over with an eggplant emoji. It may seem harmless enough, but try using your words to express yourself as much as possible.
Save the intimate photos for later.
It’s also dangerous to send any sort of intimate photo, especially when not prompted to do so. In general, ladies aren’t impressed over dick pics. Most of them get deleted or laughed at, and that’s not due to size, but rather the fact that it’s incredibly inappropriate. Random dick pics are like the online equivalent to being flashed. Even if you’re proud of what you’ve got, maybe wait for a little until you know how your partner feels about them first.
Don’t push them too far.
Even if you’ve been intimate with this person before, sometimes people aren’t in the mood to be flirty—even through text. If they’ve had a stressful day, or just need some alone time, you should honour that and not try to make it all about you. Always respect their boundaries, and don’t think that one bad day means they’ve met someone else.
You may feel a bit more empowered by approaching your crush on text, but just remember that mistakes may happen. Even though you’re behind a screen, try to be the same individual you are in person. That way, your crush will know that your flirty texts are a genuine step forward in your relationship.
Reference and credit: Zoosk dating app